Advice and support for Male victims of domestic violence and abuse 7 days a week

The Male Advice Line offers confidential advice and support to Male victims of domestic violence and abuse over the phone.

The Male Advice Line is managed by the Men’s Development Network and is supported and funded by Tusla’s Domestic, Sexual and Gender-based violence section.

Our service is staffed by fully qualified Counsellors and Psychotherapists who have been specifically trained in this area of work. 

Callers can be assured that at all times they will be treated with the utmost respect and confidentiality. 

Our core objective is to ensure you are safe and that you can talk through what is happening to you without fear, shame or blame.

This service is also available to family and friends who may have concerns for a loved one and are seeking some guidance on how to help them.

Additional Support

If you are the victim of a crime contact:

One in Five

The award-winning short film ‘One in Five’ by English writer/actor Graeme Brookes (2020) is a dramatised presentation of a true story. “It shows Domestic Abuse is not gender-specific,” says Derek Smith, Manager of Men’s Development Network’s Male Advice Line. “It can happen to anyone and the number of men who have experienced or are experiencing Domestic Abuse is increasingly prevalent in Ireland, which is why we provide the MAL service for victims.”

Some of the reasons you may wish to talk to us:

  • Providing you with emotional support
  • Giving you time to talk through your experiences
  • Providing you with relevant information and practical advice
  • Signposting you to other specialist organisations such as: domestic violence units, mental health organisations, emotional support services, services for gay, bisexual and trans (GBT) men and organisations providing immigration, housing and legal advice, parenting advice and support, and assistance with child contact issues.
  • We are not legally qualified so we cannot offer legal advice; also, we are not housing
    specialists, but we can find legal advice centres and housing advice centres for you.

How do I know I am experiencing domestic violence or abuse?

Sometimes it can be hard to know if you are experiencing domestic abuse and the following information is intended to help those who feel that this may be the case. The following is a list of possible signs of domestic abuse.

  • You are afraid of your partner.
  • You are constantly ‘walking on eggshells’ because of mood swings.
  • You spend your time working out what kind of mood they are in and the focus is always on their needs.
  • They lose their temper easily and over minor things.
  • They have hit you.
  • Your partner has been abusive in a previous relationship.
  • They call you names and threaten you and/or your children.
  • They criticise your family and friends and/or makes it difficult for you to see them or talk to them on your own.
  • They have threatened to kill themselves, or you or the children, if you leave.
  • They regularly criticise or undermine you in front of other people
  • Your needs are not considered important or are ignored, and they make the decisions in the relationship.
  • They control your access to basic essentials such as the car, the family finances, food, the telephone and internet.
  • They have forced you to do something that you really did not want to do.
  • They have forced you to have sex with them or with other people.


Here are a number of different types of abuse:

  • Physical Abuse includes slapping, hitting, pushing, kicking, misuse of medication,
    restraint or inappropriate sanctions.
  • Sexual Abuse includes rape and sexual assault, or sexual acts to which the vulnerable person has not consented, or could not consent, or into which he or she
    was compelled to consent.
  • Psychological Abuse includes emotional abuse, threats of harm or abandonment,
    deprivation of contact, humiliation, blaming, controlling, intimidation, coercion, harassment, verbal abuse, isolation, or withdrawal from services or supportive
  • Financial or Material Abuse includes theft, fraud, exploitation; pressure in
    connection with wills, property, inheritance or financial transactions; or the misuse or misappropriation of property, possessions or benefits.
  • Institutional Abuse may occur within residential care and/or acute settings
    including nursing homes, acute hospitals, and any other in-patient settings and may
    involve, for example, poor standards of care, rigid routines or inadequate responses to complex needs.
  • Neglect and Acts of Omission include ignoring medical or physical care needs,
    failure to provide access to appropriate health, social or educational services, the
    withholding of the necessities of life such as medication, adequate nutrition and/or
  • Discriminatory Abuse includes ageism, racism, sexism, that based on a person’s
    disability and other forms of harassment, slurs or similar treatment.

8 FREE email sessions

The Male Advice Line offers online counselling. This limited availability of 8 free sessions “is proving to be very helpful to callers to regain stability and reassurance in their life situation,” says Derek Smith counselling co-ordinator.

If you would like to contact us confidentially by email, please fill out the form below.


If you are aware a child is in danger as a result of witnessing domestic abuse and if you have concerns about a child then contact: If you have immediate concerns about a child and it is outside office hours you can contact the Gardaí directly.